#situationships

hopefully on my vacation coming up I get a summer fling situationship kind of thing to forget about this boy that couldn’t care less about me (I will choose carefully and the boy will have a feature that reminds me of him in a way)

While therapy has shown to be mostly bs for me sofar… If, i ever find a therapist half compétent im going to have to work trough why im so ok with being second choice despite it activly cleaving my mental state

heatwaves we had a thunderstorm today and as i felt the cool wind sweep around my body i could only think of him wrapping his arms around me. i’ve never felt them, of course, but i can’t help but dream. the heat makes me irritated and i can’t help but scoff at the stupidest of things. wanna know what helps calm me down? thinking of him. so annoying. i’ve been practicing driving and my my anxiety has been so bad. thinking about him calms me down. i hate it so so bad. but i cant. stop. like what the hell. it’s officially late nights in the middle of june and i can’t stop thinking about him. this is gonna sound weird but… does he fiddle when he’s nervous? glance around? does he prefer coffee or tea? how does he prepare them? all these questions floating around and i know he’ll never care enough to answer. i know i can never ever get with him but i cant get him out of my brain. i hate you, astro. you anger me. thinking of you always, vanilly.

Silver lining of the situationship is knowing that im the cool, social and very présentable one because so far her friends have know me already before we ever met because she’s talks alot about me and the other fuck is the cis/het ogre of a man the she barely acknowledges to the point that she pivots in invisible mode whenever they play a game together online

sure I’m creepy and perverted and keep their jacket in my closet without their knowledge so I can wear it at night to smell them, but that PALES in comparison to what their other exes are like

He won’t pay for your meal but he has no problem funding an OF woman’s bank account?

Having a healthy situationship in this day and age feels like I have to explain myself all the time so people won’t pity me. Like… no for real, we have both agreed to be exclusive but life gets in the way sometimes which makes it hard to commit on the long term, doesn’t mean it’s not serious between us. Stop projecting on us /ᐠ - ˕ -マ

MY EVIL EX SITUATIONSHIPS EX GIRLFRIEND HAS JUST LIKED MY HINGE ABORT ABORT MISSION

why do i feel so unloved even if he does everything right and i should not be having doubts

Aight yeah no this might be the soft end of the situationship. Bailing out of the movie night that You setup so you can play connan exiles in secret is a mad move What’s more is playing hide and seek with two persons so as to never have both interacting in a same game goes a bit too deep Do i not like the dude ohhh yeah 100% and he dosnt like me either yet i have the minimum of human decency to pretend to get along so at least the game is fun, but nooooo his almost cis het patriarcal ass doesn’t have to be near anything “disturbing” least his feeling get bruised and shuts down like an common mussle And of course mister nobody needs to have these games as off the record as possible because having me or any of our friends who very much Dont vibe with him find out might make them both looking like assholes Girl if even playing a game has you moving like you have skeletons in your closet i Dont want to see what skeletons you actually have in your closet

This happened to me two weeks ago and I need some opinions, thoughts… anything to clear my head. I work in a sports team and I started the job two/three months ago. I am the only female in the team and the other coaches and staff members are men (along with the players). I am also much younger compared to the staff. I am turning twenty while most of my coworkers are in their late 30s or early 40s. I get along with them super well and we are like a family. We work together six times a week for more than six hours a day. One of the coaches, let’s call him Mr M, has been very extroverted with me since the beginning. Mr M made sure that I always felt safe when everything was new and I knew almost nobody. He talked to me all the time and looked after me. To me he seemed just like a normal man and he never gave off those creepy vibes. He was always touchy; hugging and taking my hand. But it was never in a weird way and it always felt sincere and caring. He has never done anything bad to me or said anything even mildly bad! When he was taking me to lunch one day we were discussing about our discomfort zones and things like that. I talked about my dislike for public speaking. But he told me that I am his discomfort zone. He said that he knows that his actions have consequences which makes him feel uncomfortable. I didn’t understand him at first and he continued with: “we have a 22-year age gap”. And then I realised what he meant. He kinda confessed that he had been thinking about me in a “not so appropriate way”. Mind you he has a wife and two kids. That’s why he was emphasising the part that actions have consequences. The next day we have a game which I can’t attend because of my own graduation. The staff and I meet after the game to have a little party that they had put up for me. We had fun and we decided to head to the nightclub. We were in a taxi, but then I started to feel sick. I asked to be dropped off to a random park and Mr M offered to help (since his other job is being a firefighter and a paramedic). Me, tipsy and tired, lie on the grass in an X and start mumbling. He starts to help me professionally, like a switch turning on. He holds me by my legs as I lay on the grass. I am wearing a dress and he says: “I know that you are wearing a dress and someone may get a peek, but I have to help you”. It felt good in an odd way. After that little incident we head to the bar where the other staff members are waiting. He takes good care of me, making sure that I stay properly hydrated and that I don’t pass out from dehydration after a long sunny day. Then all of a sudden, he starts to pour his heart out to the other coaches and me. “I shouldn’t be feeling like this towards a 19-year-old” “I like her so much, so so so much” “Since the beginning… I have been having dreams about her” “I can’t function without her, I need her” “I had to figure out a lie to get her (my) number from him (our physio)” “Every morning I think about her, every night I go to sleep thinking about her” The other staff members just tease him about it. Everyone was tipsy at that point. But I was stone cold sober. We moved from a bar to another, but I needed some fresh air since I was still feeling a bit nauseous. Mr M and I sat on the concrete steps outside the bar and we talked for over an hour. He held my hand… He spoke to me about how I have managed to get past all of his defences, to slither past his frontlines. That I am making him question his relationship and his choices and his life. He told me how much I have affected him, he has spoke about me to his coworkers at the fire station, to other coaches in other teams… He told me that he wants to kiss me… But he won’t The entire night went like this: He was close to me, I was close to him. We were holding each other the entire night. I could feel him at all times. But we did nothing sexual. Our other staff friends could see everything we did, but they didn’t even bat an eye. They were so busy with everything else. Then we ended the night with having some food together (alone with Mr M) at around 5am. And still, we did nothing sexual. After that night we have talked via messages since I am out of the country. We have been casual… This is a weird situation, because I do not have any intentions with him because of his family. But why is he being so open about it, why is he so willing to talk about his struggles with liking me?

parabola summer always makes me sentimental. i blame me staying up late and my emotions being on overdrive. i have one thing i’ve been yearning for; love. it’s what drives us as humans. everytime im out and im having fun, i just wish i could hold someone’s hand and curl into their side. of course, there is only one person who i seem to think about. astro, oh buddy. it’s just gotten worse. i’ve leaned even further into his words, smiling when i know he doesn’t mean anything more than a friendly situation, i hate myself for it. i truly do. i feel like im forcing something that can never truly happen. i wish he would give me something to go off of. but i know it already, if there is no sign, that means that he isn’t interested. i hate thinking about it. i need to admit everything to him, its constantly on my heart and it hurts. i know as soon as i admit everything, i lose it all. i don’t want to lose him completely. i need to not feel for him. he keeps me up at night, and i know i barely affect him. i could go radio silence and he would have no idea. and he wouldn’t care. and that hurts. but who am i to mention it? he’s not my boyfriend or anything close to that. he’s a friend and i think that’s all he will ever be. i hate being so stuck up on some boy i haven’t even met. i hate him. adeus vanilly

I (26M) suspect my best friend’s ex (22F) might have feelings for me I have a female friend whom I’ve become extremely close to over the last year. She is the ex of my best friend from 5 years ago. I’ve always described her as more of a sister figure than a romantic interest, although I’m honestly not even sure anymore what exactly I feel. I love her deeply and she’s one of the most important people in my life. She’s an innocent person and has had a traumatic past, so I’ve felt protective of her. I have genuinely felt that way, but I realized that over time we’ve started acting like a couple without labeling it that way. A lot of hugs, her asking me to kiss her forehead/cheek, lying down together, cuddling, gifts, her crying to me when in need, saying “I love you” to each other. I have felt protective of her but over time I’ve realized this may not be healthy. You might wonder what my best friend thinks of all this. He says he’d be fine with it if we dated, cause in all honesty he doesn’t care nor never cared about her at all (he even cheated on her when they were together). However I’m not sure of what I feel. She has a very different communication style from mine. She often takes days to respond, disappears for stretches of time, and I’ve repeatedly felt neglected, confused, or emotionally unimportant. Over time I realized I had become emotionally attached to the friendship in a way that wasn’t healthy for me. I’ve even told her in the past that I felt I needed distance because I was becoming dependent on the connection - I’ve been really hurt in the past and I feel a toxic need to be emotionally validated and feel needed. I realize I might be projecting a savior fantasy on her even to some degree. A few weeks ago she removed me from her Instagram Close Friends list and ignored some affectionate texts I sent her. Maybe because I told her I want sure I’d be able to make it to her birthday party. I started distancing myself. Then her birthday party came around and my best friend was extremely insistent on going even though I didn’t want to. Earlier that day I went on a date with another girl. I decided to go. So later that night I brought that girl with me to the party. When we arrived, her expression immediately changed when she saw us. According to my best friend, she immediately asked whether the girl was my girlfriend. Throughout the night she apparently asked him multiple times whether she was my girlfriend. She also later asked me directly and confronted me angrily for bringing someone she didn’t know and other people. She also made a comment to my best friend along the lines of: “Does (my name) like all his female friends or what?” According to him she said it annoyed, angry and walked away. What stuck with me most was that while she was scolding me, I felt like there was genuine hurt underneath the anger. Her voice seemed to crack slightly at one point and I thought I saw tears or moisture in her eyes. In a brief pause she quickly hugged me afterward when the situation de-escalated, perhaps further showing the contradiction in her feelings. After the party she ignored my texts for four days. But did reply normally in our group chat. When she finally replied, she apologized for taking so long and said that she wasn’t jealous at all. She said she was simply upset because we brought people she didn’t know. She also thanked me for telling her how important she is to me and said she feels similarly. The thing that confuses me is that earlier that same night she was completely fine with us bringing another friend who she barely knows and has even said before she doesn’t particularly like. That’s one reason why I struggle to believe the entire issue was just about the guests. At this point I’m less concerned about whether she secretly likes me and more concerned about the fact that the friendship itself feels emotionally unhealthy. I care about her deeply and don’t want to hurt her. But I also feel exhausted. Every time I try to distance myself, something happens and I get pulled back in. I’ve realized that I’ve become attached in ways that aren’t healthy for me and that the friendship has repeatedly caused me pain. Been thinking of having a conversation with her. What would you do in my situation? Sounds like it’s time to lay out on the table and have an honest and vulnerable discussion and address what your relationship is. You all don’t have to know what you want or put a specific label on this, but you should at least acknowledge the dynamic you currently have and discuss some specifics that you actually want or don’t want. Where do each of you stand on getting closer? On taking some space? On being exclusive while you sort things out? On dating other people? Where do you differ and what does that mean about how you should navigate things going forward (which might indeed mean cutting each other off and giving each other space at events with mutual friends)?

A T-Rex had a large olfactory bulb; which is the part of the brain that processes smell. That means it could use its smell to identify prey, intraspecific communication, or smell your boyfriend who doesn’t wipe his ass and doesn’t flush. You should get that fixed, girl.

tesknie za toba i to jest tak glupie bo caly czas jestes tu obok fizycznie ale mentalnie to jak na innej planecie

I wrote her poetry, and she couldn’t even send me a text letting me know she was still alive, I know she had a lot, a lot going on, but she promised that even if things got crazy, she’d let me know she’s, you know, still alive, so I just, kinda thought she would? I spent way too much time so worried about her, given the situation, I kept worrying about the worst case situation. Guess I should just be thankful that I’m strong enough to step away from something when I know it just won’t work for me, (I simply cannot thrive emotionally when given no type of updates for lengths of time) but DAMN I was so excited about continuing to get to know her!

Ahahaha are you ready for commitment? 👻🤣🤣🤣

Why are gay people so obsessed with their exes

I am genuinely so scared he’s fcking other girls